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Scare Your Soul: 7 Powerful Principles to Harness Fear and Lead Your Most Courageous Life
Adam Mendler - SHARE PASSIONS BEFORE PRODUCT: INTERVIEW WITH SCOTT SIMON, FOUNDER OF SCARE YOUR SOUL
SHARE PASSIONS BEFORE PRODUCT: INTERVIEW WITH SCOTT SIMON, FOUNDER OF SCARE YOUR SOUL
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Adam Mendler
Simon hopes to ‘Scare Your Soul’ in Shabbat talk at Fairmount Temple
Scott Simon wants to scare your soul – or at least he hopes his book does.
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By: Jane Koffman
The president of North Pointe Realty in Mayfield Heights and founder of the Scare Your Soul movement has written a book by the same name: “Scare Your Soul: Seven Powerful Principles to Harness Fear and Lead Your Most Courageous Life.”
Trauma Hiders Club Podcast
Scare Your Soul and Live with Courage with Scott Simon
40 MINS
Scott Simon is a happiness entrepreneur and the Founder of the Scare Your Soul movement. A sought-after speaker, Scott co-founded Thrive, a “happiness incubator” for which he delivered a TEDx Talk in 2013 before he launched Scare Your Soul in 2016. He is a meditation leader and high-performance life coach who focuses on creating flourishing lives after major changes. Scott received his Bachelor of Arts degree from Skidmore College and completed his Master of Arts degree at Case Western Reserve University. He also holds certificates in Positive Psychology and Coaching from the Wholebeing Institute. His book, Scare Your Soul: 7 Powerful Principles to Harness Fear and Lead Your Most Courageous Life, will be launched on December 06, 2022.
Scott joins me today to discuss what it means to scare your soul and how we can harness our fears to live freely and courageously. He outlines his process for identifying fear and dealing with it in an intentional, thoughtful way and explains why we create comfort bubbles. He describes how he was silenced as a child and how he took back his power and freedom in his adult life by scaring his soul. He also reminds us of the importance of acknowledging the struggles we experienced as children—even if we came from loving and affirming families—and highlights what it takes to become the embodiment of truth, love, and humanity.
Anxiety at Work | Scare your Soul with Happiness Entrepreneur, Scott Simon
Scare your Soul with Happiness Entrepreneur, Scott Simon
Welcome to Anxiety at Work –> We hope the time you spend with us will help remove the stigma of anxiety and mental health in the workplace and your personal life.
Our guest this week is our new friend Scott Simon, who is a happiness entrepreneur and founder of Scare Your Soul. He is also the author of the forthcoming book, aptly named “Scare Your Soul.” He is dedicated to creating, curating, and leading opportunities for people around the world to be happier and more courageous. Scott founded the Scare Your Soul movement in 2015, growing it from a single Facebook post to a global movement with sixty volunteer ambassadors. He brings his passion for courage to audiences, a life-coaching practice, and mindfulness-meditations in person and online.
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Until next week, we hope you find peace & calm in a world that often is a sea of anxiety.
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Fear Tells Us What We Have to Do
Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do.
Steven Pressfield
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I almost puked on Madison Avenue.
It is one hour before I have to arrive at the studios of Hachette Audio (one of the greatest audiobook companies in the world). It is my first day recording the audiobook version of the Scare Your Soul book. As I threaded the morning Midtown crowds on my way to get a tea, I could barely function.
I had fought hard to be able to do this.
I even had to send in an audition tape.
This is scary. And I want this.
If Daring Greatly and The Artist’s Way had a baby, the Scare Your Soul book might very well be its beloved infant. It is a mix of stories, science, writing prompts, and real-world challenges. And it is personal.
Like, VERY personal.
In it, I share:
- How I spent much of my childhood feeling unworthy, a shy kid bullied and lonely
- How the epiphany that I had on an airplane changed my life
- The death of my idol – my first cousin – and the impossible event that freed me from its grip
- The truth of how my first girlfriend cheated on me, and how I moved to forgiveness
- How a train-wreck of a first date led to one of the deepest relationships of my life
- How a near-disaster while giving a TEDx Talk led to a massive boost in confidence
- And so much more
The initial feedback I got from Hachette was hard to hear. They liked my tape but were concerned that I wouldn’t have the stamina to narrate for four days, six hours a day. I can’t blame them. And it would have been easy to just say OK.
Let someone else do it.
But I couldn’t. It seemed CRAZY that someone I didn’t know – no matter how velvety their voice was – would voice these personal moments. It seemed CRAZY that – no matter how scary the experience would be – that I wouldn’t give it everything I had.
So I pushed. I called. I lobbied.
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And, now, here I am; sitting at a Starbucks, trying to steady my frayed nerves. Not to mention to try to avoid puking on Madison Avenue.
It immediately calls to mind something I read from the Farnum Street Blog:
“There is nothing that gets in the way of success more than avoidance. We avoid hard conversations. We avoid certain people. We avoid hard decisions … Sometimes we muster up half the courage. We have half the conversation we wanted to have. We do half the hard thing. We acknowledge the evidence but convince ourselves this time is different. We see the person we’re avoiding but don’t really talk to them. We start but don’t commit to the project.
And here’s the interesting thing. Half-efforts tend to make things worse, not better.”
I don’t want to lead a half-effort life.
And neither should you.
So, I ask:
- Where are you avoiding the hard thing right now?
- Where can you lobby and push to get what you want?
- What seems so hard and scary that your stomach can’t handle it, but you NEED to do it anyway?
As Anais Nin once said, “And the day came when the wish to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Push against fear.
Push hard.
It’s the indicator that you’re doing what you need to do.
Digital Detox Challenge
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Nowhere is our independence in more jeopardy than in our digital lives. Various surveys find people more willing to give up food, sleep, and sex than to lose their internet connections. One recent study found that half of us would rather have a broken bone than a broken phone.
- 61% admit to being addicted to the internet and their devices.
- 50% of people prefer to communicate digitally than in person.
- High social media use can trigger an increase in loneliness & jealousy
We forget, all too easily, that when our phone is off, there’s a whole world out there to be explored.
Your Challenge for this week is to choose one evening and turn off your phone (and other screens) from 5:00 p.m. until you wake up the following morning.
Cue sweaty palms and nausea. We get it. We’re going to do it too. If it helps, print off this handy Permission Slip.
Some ideas of things to do while off our phones:
Read this awesomeness by John Stilgoe, or a little (or a lot) of this by Cheryl Strayed, and then get yourself outside. Walk, savor, breathe.
Make a bucket list of things to do in the next 5 years. Put them on post-it notes. Stick them up in your closet.
Select a random recipe, shop for the ingredients, and cook. Feed others if possible.
Print off Arthur Aron’s 36 questions. Sit with someone you love – or want to love – and just do them. You’ll thank us later.
Spend quality time re-sparking intimacy with your sig-o, or have a deep talk with a friend about why modern love is so damn hard.
Grab some friends and one of these board games.
Bring a fine journal and the world’s best $1.33 pen to a library or coffee house, and free-write about what makes you most grateful.
Take a hot bath or shower, brew a big mug of tea, crack open a great book, and get primed for an early and awesome night’s sleep.
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When you’re done, please take a minute and share your experiences in our Facebook group, or post on your social networks using the hashtag #scareyoursoul
In courage,
Christine Reed
Bold | Rugged | Ready
Christine Reed
Hi! I’m Christine– and I’m so happy to be part of the Scare Your Soul community. I started finding myself through scary challenges in my early 20s when I decided to set out hiking the Appalachian Trail. I had never been outdoorsy or sporty or athletic, but something about the challenge spoke to a curiosity I didn’t know I had inside me. A curiosity to dig deep and figure out what was possible. Since then I’ve backpacked many long trails and summitted many mountains. Along the way I learned to transfer that curiosity to other areas of my life. I wrote and published my first book, Alone in Wonderland, to share some of that story with the world. Being part of the Scare Your Soul community is an amazing opportunity to share the joy of doing things that seem hard, challenging, impossible, crazy with the world. Reminding me AND you to keep putting myself out there.
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Julie Dery
Optimistic | Adventurous | Creative
Julie Dery
Creative Director of the Outpost Group in Jackson Hole, WY Founder/Creative Director of Saltworks Paper
What’s one small thing I do each day that makes me feel courageous? Holding eye contact–with strangers, friends, or family. We tend to look away because real, undistracted eye contact can make us feel incredibly vulnerable.
I love this small, simple, and at times scary act to bring instant connection in our often-distracted lives.
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Lisa's Scare Your Soul Story
Hi, I’m Lisa.
I’ve always wanted to start my own business. I just didn’t know what kind of business it would be. Until I landed my role as WeWork’s second employee in February 2010.
At the end of the first year, after opening WeWork’s first two locations in NYC, the company gave out employment agreements which included an 18-month noncompete. I was the only one of 25 employees not willing to sign it. I had been honing my skills alongside Founders Adam Neumann and Miguel McKelvey, working tirelessly, wearing several hats, and yet I knew that ultimately I would never have final say in how things were done.
The prospect of leaving was gut wrenching. I loved what we were creating and I could see the tremendous (and global) potential of Adam’s vision for the business from the start. He always said WeWork would become the next Google, from a valuation perspective, and leaving meant giving up the possibility of becoming a millionaire.
I thought of my dad, Henry “Hank” Skokowski. He was a prominent Urban Planner in South Florida who unexpectedly died on Valentine’s Day 2004, while touring Australia and New Zealand on a motorcycle as part of a two month soul-searching trip. Losing him suddenly taught me that life is short and can be taken from us at any moment. Who I want to be in the world is someone who seizes opportunities and takes great risks where there can be great rewards. In my heart I knew that if I didn’t leave, I would always be left with the question of “what if”.
After weeks of thoughtful conversations with both Adam and Miguel, I mustered the courage to give my three weeks notice and I left — knowing that one day I could be very happy opening 2-3 locations of my own. Given the professional network I had been fostering in Manhattan BNI [Business Network International] for years, my intuition told me I could actually make it happen.
In January 2015, Adam reached out to me on text asking to meet. At the time, WeWork was valued at $12B.
A week later, sitting in his palatial corner office at 222 Broadway in Manhattan’s Financial District, Adam shared that he felt “something was missing”. He wanted to have me take on one of their buildings to “hire, fire, and train” … whatever I needed to do to “create a feeling of connection and community” that we had when I was with them in the beginning.
At that moment, the intuitive voice in my head screamed ‘if he thinks you can create something that is missing in his $12B company, it is time to launch your own business’.
I thanked him for the opportunity and said I would think about it [and be in touch].
I could feel the adrenaline rushing through my body as I immediately walked out onto Broadway and called the person who would become Primary’s seed investor. I said, “I am ready to start my own company”. He said, “Great. I am ready to invest.”
Six months later, I secured an operating agreement with his commitment to invest $6mm in my new business. Less than one year later, we opened the doors of Primary’s flagship location at 26 Broadway facing the famous Charging Bull Statue in Lower Manhattan.
As they say, leap and the net will appear. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
– Lisa Skye